Do you find that you see situations differently from your partner?

Here is a situation where two people see the same situation very differently. The left-brained husband is more factual, quick to answer and objective; the right brained wife reacts without words until the feelings reach the left brain to speak them.

Him: Recently, at the ballpark Doug strolled up and pretended he’d known me forever. His man-hug put me off, but I smiled and responded in kind. Then he said he’d like to know where my next installations would be so he could “just hang out” with me to learn my processes. He’s starting a similar business. I politely said I didn’t have anything lined up. The following is the conversation I had with my wife regarding the situation.

Her: How’d you feel when Doug asked about your installations?

Him: Oh, I don’t know, there’s nothing going on right now for him to see.

Her: Sure, things have slowed down. But how’d you feel when he said he wanted to watch and learn your processes?

Relationships are dances in time, with leaders and followers continually seeking a rhythm together.
BrainStyles, pg. 45 

Him: It isn’t going to happen.

Her: I know, but how’d you feel?

Him: What do you mean?

Her: Well, it’s interesting to me that you’re onto a solution right from the start. So can you think back to yesterday and how you felt? (smiling)

Him:  I was thinking “never happen” so it’s a non-issue. If he thinks I’m going to call him and tell him where I’ll be, that’ll never happen. (pause) Why, how’d you feel?

Her: I’ve been annoyed about it for the past 12 hours. I thought Doug was rude. I wanted him to praise your expertise and ask permission to get some insight from you if you weren’t too busy. You're objective, though. Since feelings don’t muddy up the experience for you, you're able to neatly package the “problem” and quickly reach a practical solution.

Him: She’s right; I’m objective in the moment. Then I realized a lot of people probably helped me when I was getting started, so I should probably help him. If he calls me and I’ve got something going, I guess I’ll tell him where to meet me.

NOTE: The left brain changes quickly with logic and more input. The right brain changes slowly with experience. Feelings come quickly, but are slower to get to the left-brain language that can conclude and speak.

What do you think? How would you feel about the situation? Would you find Doug’s behavior rude, or would you simply view it as a "non-issue" with an easy solution?